A GUIDE TO USING A VIBRATOR WITH YOUR PARTNER

Today, we're diving into a topic that's all about taking intimacy to new heights – using vibrators with your partner. At Coconu, we believe that pleasure is a shared experience, and incorporating a vibrator into your intimate moments can add a whole new dimension to your connection. Join us as we explore how to incorporate this powerful sex accessory into your partnered play.

  1. Communication is Key

Before introducing a vibrator into your shared play, communication is paramount. Open and honest conversations about desires, boundaries, and expectations create a foundation of trust and understanding. Discussing your comfort levels and preferences ensures that both you and your partner are on the same page, setting the stage for a pleasurable experience.

  1. Choose the Right Vibrator

Selecting the right vibrator is crucial for a satisfying experience. If you’re new to using a vibrator, consider starting with an external vibrator which is best for beginners. Consider factors like size, intensity, and functions to find a vibrator that complements your preferences and desires. Remember, the goal is to enhance pleasure for both partners. Coconu offers an external vibrator, Coconu Wave Personal Massager, made of high-quality, platinum-grade silicone and is small and easy to use. 

  1. Set the Mood

Creating the right ambiance can elevate the experience. Dim the lights, play some sensual music, or incorporate other elements that make you and your partner feel comfortable and relaxed. Setting the mood enhances intimacy and allows both of you to fully enjoy the experience.

  1. Explore Each Other's Bodies

Using a vibrator with your partner is not just about the end goal; it's a journey of exploration. Take the time to explore each other's bodies, discovering erogenous zones and preferences. Incorporating the vibrator into foreplay can intensify sensations and build anticipation for what's to come. Start slowly by trying the vibrator on your secondary erogenous zones first (neck, lower belly, inner thighs, behind knees, breasts, nipples) before you use it on your genitals or annus. Take your time and slow down and savor it, there's no rush! 

  1. Experiment with Positions

Vibrators can be seamlessly integrated into various sexual positions. Whether it's during oral sex, manual stimulation, or penetrative intercourse, experimenting with different positions allows you to find what works best for both partners. Don't be afraid to get creative and discover new ways to share pleasure.

  1. Focus on Shared Pleasure

The key to using a vibrator with your partner is to prioritize mutual pleasure. Whether it's taking turns using the vibrator or exploring simultaneous stimulation, the focus should be on creating an experience that enhances the connection between you and your partner. Enjoy the journey together, celebrating the pleasure you can create as a team.

  1. Clean and Care

After the blissful experience, it's essential to clean your vibrator properly. Wash thoroughly with soap and water or a toy cleaner. Proper care not only maintains the hygiene of your accessory but also ensures its longevity.


Introducing a vibrator into your partnered play is a thrilling way to deepen intimacy and explore new realms of pleasure. At Coconu, we encourage you to embrace the journey of shared exploration, communication, and connection. Happy exploring!